Discipline: Life’s Major Aspect That Leads To Success:

Friday, July 31, 2009 | comments

Most of us do not fully see the reality of life. Instead we moan about our problems, our burdens and our difficulties as if life should be easy and a smooth path. I know about this moaning because I have done my share.

But does this moaning make life any better?



In the attempt to simplify life and ease its difficulties, we have resorted to an escapist mentality that preaches "life is what you make it". As if we have the power to steer its course. In numerous books and motivation material, we are lead to believe that one can have a smooth sailing; we just have to gear our thoughts and energy to becoming successful. Positive thinking they call it.



But this alone does not guarantee anything. I believe discipline is the basic set of tools we require to solve life's problems. These tools are a means by which we experience the pains of life in such a way as to work them through and solve them, learning and growing in the process.



Discipline then lies in our ability to delay gratification, accepting our responsibilities, dedicate ourselves to the process of life and overall balance in our living. Our other ability to have discipline in the way we handle our finances, resources, manage our time, handle our relationships and how we embrace our character and personalities with the aim of building self discipline. Because as much as I would love to believe otherwise, discipline is the life jacket that can save us from drowning ourselves in the deep sorrows of life.

Life’s Attitude That Brings About Transformation

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In all spheres of life, there exist negative trends that have prevailed for a long time. Examples of such trends include corruption, alcoholism, poverty, lack of proper education and so on. These issues present themselves in family settings and end up affecting the whole community. But it is the high time people seek to break from these trends and bring positive change.



Some of us are merely unwilling to change while others give up as the task seems quite enormous. While others strange enough are never aware that there is a trend that they do succumb to until it is too late.

These negative trends hamper the success of quite a number of people. If such trends are not checked and broken early enough they end up prevailing for generations. The young ones grow up in the same environment and learn to live with such trends and they view these habits as a way of life. Since there is no-one to urge or motivate them to change they adapt same behaviors.



However, these tendencies can be broken by individuals who decide to change their mentality. Your attitude has to change first then strive towards transforming from these negative habits. The difference between a change agent and a compliant of fate is that the former believes he can while the latter thinks he can’t.

Change agents do set their thinking apart from that of the rest. They refuse to think average and would rather think great. I would rather be labeled a dreamer than a dormant sleeper. Do not let your creativity and imagination be hampered by anything. Your imagination brings a transformation to your surrounding and to you.

Take Action Now, Tomorrow Might Be Too Late

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Procrastinating is a thief of time because it brings about time wastage and makes one lazy. People who keep postponing doing something eventually end up not taking any action at all. This therefore makes postponing an enemy to success. Some people tend to wait for favorable circumstances or the best opportunities, which most of the time never come. What matters is what one does by the end of the day and not what they could have done.

Time is the most important resource that one can have, so the adage, "time is money". A minute lost can never be recovered, therefore one should make the most out of it while there is still time. Procrastination thrives on the false notion that there is still plenty of time left. One then fails to make his hay while the sun is shining. When the planned action time comes, they find that they are too busy and thus postpone it once more.

One should create time to do everything he intends to do since time will never avail itself. Laziness goes hand in hand with procrastination. Never say that you have too much time in your hands and too little to do. Rather act and implement now, be a man of action. Someone once said action speaks louder than words, if you have a clear vision and set achievable goals you will definitely move closer to your destiny.

Start acting now and you will live up to your dreams. Successful people after dreaming rise from their beds and start working immediately towards achieving their dreams. Every line begins with a dot, your project could just become the next big thing if only you take decisive steps and start working on it.

Managing Finances In A Relationship:

Wednesday, July 22, 2009 | comments

Most breakups in a relationship are caused by financial disagreements. From a dating couple to married ones if money issues are not well agreed on, there could be looming trouble. At my pre-marital counseling class, I got a chance to hear different views on how couples manage their finances and realized that it is not a matter of how much money couples have but how they agree on the use of the money.



One of the couples shared their way of dealing with money and this impressed me; they pooled together all their income and sat down each month end to jot down their monthly budget. Each person got some pocket money for personal use thus it did not matter how much one contributed to the pool. But of course this can only work if both parties are open about their income.



Currently with more women being empowered, some couples have found themselves in a relationship where the woman earns more than the man. This can cause a strain on the relationship especially if the woman looks down upon the man or if the man is in denial that he is earning less. It is therefore important that a couple accepts each other as they are and plan for their income as a couple rather than compete on who earns more.

Couples can open a joint account, invest in insurance for the family, buy property, buy shares in the stock market and enjoy the power of pooling funds together.

In case of further problems, couples can also get a financial advisor or a successful couple to emulate.

Utilizing Your Potential:

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All human beings are created with an inner ability to cause things to happen. Every person can positively affect the world around them. The people who impact begin their one step by influence others. Great men and women have come and gone, yet some of them cannot be traced even after a year of their departure, because they did not realize their potential. Click Here!

Life is a about choices and every individual has to deliberate on very simple basic steps to utilize their potential. For example, when doing business you need to find out the needs of the people around you and try your best to address those needs. Opportunities will always be there but the challenge is how to seize them. A simple way is to consult from people who have made it in life and are positively affect their surrounding. Take action and utilize your potential by drawing up a plan of which must be followed diligently. In our modern world even the disabled individuals are making great strides in the area of business. Proving disability is not inability.

Therefore you have no excuse for not been able to achieve success. We are all gifted in one way or another so we should find our area of strength and impact the world around us. Talents were meant to be utilized to influence others and not benefit ourselves alone. Today I encourage you to take action, make use of your gifting and be optimistic. Do you have a business idea? Don’t wait, implement it now. Even if you happen to make mistakes, don’t hold back but keep on, in time you will actualize your potential as you make use of your talents.

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Achieving Success In Life

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We are in constant pursuit of achievement but only few of us ever reach our desired goals. Then one is forced to ask, what can one do to succeed in life? Is it that people who have succeeded in their field are better than others? If you are there wondering what the secret is, thank goodness you are reading this article today.



Becoming the best in your field entails realizing your full potential. Each one of us is special in that we have different combinations of capabilities and talents. In order to achieve a maximum level of output, one needs to have total belief in oneself. Many are those who die before coming close to their full potential. Therefore, exploiting your talents will help you accomplish your life’s goals.



Apart from working smart it would be wrong to ignore the fact that one must also work hard. Set yourself apart from the rest by going an extra mile to work hard and hence lay a strong foundation for your future. Nothing in life comes easy; sacrifices have to be made to achieve success. That extra hour while others are resting will make all the difference. So the adage “success belongs to they who toil deep into the dark of night.”

While there is a need to stick to your principles and avoid negative influence, I emphasize on the need to always seek to add more knowledge. Be open to new ideas as learning is continuous. Take your lessons from life seriously, since everything that happens makes us gain experience.

Mentoring Ensures Business Progression

Saturday, July 18, 2009 | comments

It's very sad to note that the youth are shying away from those that are ahead of them, while it from them they can learn tricks of surviving in the current hard economic times. Failing to recognize how resourceful a mentor is, can be detrimental to progress. Severally we have witnessed great business ideas fail to take off or collapse after a short time due to lack of people to carry on a vision. Business ideas and dreams go down the drain because of lack of mentoring. It's the high time mentors and the mentored work together towards ensuring continuity.

A mentor should realize the importance of passing on his/her skills to ensure their visions are carried on. A mentor will manage the learning process of their students and in doing so help propel them towards realizing their career path, since most students are undecided on what they what to do in life. Deliberate efforts to teach and pass on expertise needs to occupy the minds of mentors and not be selfish.

Engaging an adviser will help in identifying the expectation of the society and hence conform to fit in. The mentor should also give the student tasks and assignments which can be evaluated to determine the progress made.

There is a need to make sure skills don't fade away but instead they must be passed on from generation to generation. Parents have to be mentors to their children by motivating them towards personal development.

If you are running a business make sure you are mentoring someone to ensure that in your absence things run normally, also in the process pass on valuable skills to help carry on your vision. It's time to realize the great need for business mentoring.

How to Celebrate

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Venue where the party will take place is very important towards cutting cost; choose a central that is easily accessible to all that want to attend. Then after the party is over let everyone be involved in cleaning up, at the end of the day you'll spend a very minimal amount and still fully enjoy your holidays.

If you choose to travel to the country side use public transport rather drive yourself; will even give you a chance to enjoy the scenery. If you are one of those who do not like large gathering transforming your living room to a theater may just work wonders. Rent movies that the whole family will enjoy not forgetting that bowl of popcorn, nuts and drinks. Alternatively you can cook where the food is healthier rather than going to a restaurant where mostly you'll get junk food. This would be a great opportunity to experiment new recipes with your family and enjoy each others company in the kitchen. As I say it would not hurt to be a little adventurous, by letting the children bake different shapes of cakes. Allow them to have scopes of ice-cream and chocolate that is bad for their teeth for once, anyway it is a special day.

It would be incomplete not to mention picnics as the other great way to enjoy that special day. These can be done in parks which do not charge for the venue or at a home garden. As you have seen there is really no reason not to cerebrate that special day with economic slump. Either way even with the little resource available you can maximize this holiday season. I personally opt to have a ball this coming holiday.

Think Outside the Box

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The school of thought for most of us has been, once we are through with college to get a job, have a successful career and stick to it progressively, even if its' not helping us achieve our aspirations. Reason being, it would appear suicidal to be adventurous. Nothing could be further from the truth. Allow me to ask, what is the point of sticking to a redundant employment or business venture, which keeps shouting recession, while out there are individuals and organizations reporting huge success?

If only we knew that our brains should be creative when ordinary solutions to problems fail to bring favorable results. When faced with difficult situations you'll witness business executives cracking their brains to come up with new ideas such as re-branding, new ways of communicating with their clients or sometimes changing the company's name, just to mention a few. Challenges trigger our brains towards finding ways out of the predicaments we encounter day to day. The problems with most of us, is that when faced with difficulties we fail to use our inborn creativity in managing problems. We get accustomed to advancing our line of thought and not looking for other ways of solving the issues affecting us.

The current global economic crisis has created an unusual situation, which has disrupted our line of progression hence the need to come up with extraordinary creativity to ensure our survival and improve our personal development. Allow me to ask you today, have you made deliberate efforts to cushion yourself against the current economical crisis? Take advantage of the current crisis with these fabulous online businesses.

Online Business Calls For Pure Excellence

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Acorns were great! Until bread came. Chariots were super, until cars came. Wired telephones were elegant, until mobile wireless phones arrived. The business world has no place for mediocrity. It is a competing world. During athletic events, we get new speed records broken every other time. Mankind is inventing and reinventing himself daily.

Therefore, to keep up the race, you must strive for excellence in everything you do. Be it in business, in studies, in sports, etc. you have no choice but to invent, research and work smart to improve.

After you've achieved something, pursue for more. Focus passionately on improving yourself. Things you never thought you could come up with, will be staring you on the face and people will be seeking for your expertise which of course puts you in a place of high worth. This is how celebrities come to be.

The biggest enemy of best is good. If you are satisfied with what's good, you'll never have what's best. ("The man who thinks he knows it all has merely stopped thinking. If you think you've arrived you'll be left behind." John Mason.) A successful man continues to look for work after he has found a Job.

Success comes to them that are never contented with what they have achieved. Achievement should thrust us to desire more. Is your small business doing well? Don't settle there but advance to a big business. The internet has a wealth of legitimate business opportunities that you can take advantage of to improve your financial statues. Don't settle at your current position.

Adversity Is A Friend To Business

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Warren Dickson a successful mountain climber happened to have a terrible accident in which both his legs were amputated. A one tone rock fell on his both legs and it took three days for help to finally arrive. He had to endure a lot of pain, cold and mosquitoes. By the time doctors arrived, it was too late, they couldn't save his legs. This event was such a huge set back in his life since he needed his two feet to climb mountains. This sport was the only thing in his life that gave him self-worth and a livelihood.

After a few months, he was given some metallic prostrated limbs and after months of rigorous exercise; he was back on his feet. Using these limbs, he began mountain climbing again after a few years. His passion not fading he began wheelchair basketball and then later attempted bicycle riding competition. Today, Warren Dickson is an Olympic bicycle riding record holder, he has won many medals for the best mountain climber, and plays basket ball despite his disability. He earns millions of dollars and has become among the richest sports men in the world.

In business, even in our career path, what we think is a setback, in most cases is our comeback and is one of the things that rewards us and redirects our path towards a wider and greater destiny. There are bad things that happen to us and we feel a lot of pain, but after sometime, we look back and appreciate them.

Sometimes I think that if adversity was absent, life would be boring. Don't give up on your small business just because you are encountering difficulties. If I ever gave up on my online business I wouldn't be here to tell you of my success.

Criticism Propels You Towards Success

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Have you ever come across people who always criticize and never complement? These are the kind of people who will always find something wrong in everything they see. To them the tea is never sweet enough, the job is not the best, my business is always recording low returns and the most beautiful girl is not yet born.

Such people always stand in the way of progress. Do not listen to them or believe in what they say if you want to development in your career, business, or in life. Critics are never problem solvers.

There is Yiddish proverb that says, "A critic is like a girl who can't dance and so she says, the band can't play" Critics do not believe anything from anybody, but they want everybody to believe everything they do and say. They tend to know the price of everything yet they value nothing. Do you have a business idea? Go ahead and start it now!

All great business men were criticized at one time but they held on to their ideas. My advice is; expect the most unjust criticism from foes and friends and develop shock absorbers for them. When you are kicked from behind, it can only mean that you are in front.

Have you just started a small business? Are there people saying your style is too aggressive or you are risking too much? Or that you are too ambitious, or you are too young? Don't listen to them, people with great momentum all share one trait; they attract criticism. How you respond to criticism will determine the rate of your business momentum. Criticism should build us not destroy. Do not lose your ambition just because someone criticized you.

Finally, learn to work with constructive people, not the wrecking crew of criticizers.

First Impression - A Key To Your Business Connection

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What is the last snapshot in the mind of the people who have at some point met with you? What do they remember most? The first impression can either open for you greater business opportunities that are bound to change your entire life, or they can be the only thing that blocks your chances of acquiring anything significant in your life.

Fashion specialists have discovered that 95% of people who are likely to pay any attention to you when they meet you especially for the first time, will only do so because of how you appear to them. People will always treat you the way you look or talk so long as they do not know you much.

Supposing you have an appointment with a businessman to strike a deal, try to look your best. Look organized, presentable, confident, well informed and financially stable. When selling your product, be careful how you relate with your customers. They do not know much about you but if you give them the best impression on the first contact, they will keep returning over and over.

Learn to prepare yourself well before you go out to make a business deal. Never forget, respect, courtesy, smartness and intelligence.

If you have a website use good color combinations that are attractive and eye catching. That first impression is crucial in determining how long a visitor will spend on your site. Also, the site should be well organized and easy to navigate through, in other words user friendly. On top of that offer your customers genuine products in order to gain their trust.

Building A Saving Habit From Childhood

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To encourage each of us, my parents could then top up the balance needed for the particular item and have a big event of taking us shopping with the hard earned cash where we could buy the item we had been saving for. This made us want to save some more each time we were given money for the chores we carried out or received monetary gifts from my friends or relatives.

Once children are able to write, parents can introduce the concept of a budget to build up to the culture of throwing in money into a piggy bank. To implement this, have a weekly allowance for the children and let them get into the habit of writing down how they intend to spend the money. Also stress that this is the money they will use to buy things like ice-cream, candy and birthday gifts for their friends. If they use up the money too fast or on items that were not in their budget, do not add them any money until they get to learn to live within their budgets. This will help them to understand why they sometimes would ask for something and the parents tell them that there is not enough money for the items they are asking for.

By the time children get to their teenage, education on investment vehicles available in the market such as real estate, equity funds, investment in shares and basics in business management can be introduced. This opens up the minds of children to get ready for adulthood and focus on saving towards achieving major goals that can sustain their lives.

Inner Jewels of Great Business People

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One of the things that most people fail to realize about themselves is that God created each person fully equipped with abilities to accomplish anything they choose to pursue, if only they can believe in themselves. As a singer once sang, "I believe I can fly" It's true that anyone who believes in him/herself can literally fly.

You were created to achieve things that nobody else has ever thought could be accomplished. A great scientist long time ago stood in a great meeting and declared that it was impossible to have a heavier than air machine fly. Surprisingly, his sons were the first to invent an air craft. What an irony!

You are not insignificant as you or someone else might think. God made and equipped you for a unique purpose. If you say you are not capable, then you will definitely not succeed in your life endeavors. Most people are afraid to start a business online simply because they're scared to fail or are waiting for favorable circumstances. Time waits for no man. Implement your business idea now, tomorrow might be too late. For as long as you are stuck with saying, tomorrow I'll start; you'll never accomplish anything in life.

"The woods would be very silent if the only birds that were allowed to sing were those that made the sweetest sound" John Masson.

The point is, begin that business today, buy books that offer the best business ideas, and eventually with time the Jewell of greatness will be revealed in you. You will climb the highest hills, fly the highest skies and do amazing things such as never witnessed before, if only you believe in yourself and in him who created you

Crucial Element of Business Ignored

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When I decide to venture into affiliate marketing on the internet, I noted with concern that for a long time I was not making any significant progress. I opted to remain patient and focused, and eventually I began seeing the fruits. Now I understand why it's said patience pays, today am more determined than ever and rearing to go. Ever wonder how a person can record huge losses in a business deal but still find the energy to wake up the following morning, take a nice bath, dress, chat at the coffee table and set off for yet another day?

It still remains a mystery how one can loss a loved one and still dare to face another day, eventually forget and continue with life. That's when I realized that God created us with natural instincts to live on. It's amazing how one can be jilted by someone he/she loves so much, pick up the broken pieces of their heart and hope to meet another love. Imagine how one could continue supporting a project that is heading for a tumble, when it's obvious whatever they are holding on to seems to be failing. There is sure something extra-ordinary with the human spirit; I love to call it hope.

By now I know you are wondering where am heading with all this talk. I've come to realize that to hope is what drives every aspect of human life. From the moment when one wakes up in the morning to the moment the sun sets in the evening. We all hope that we'll advance in our career, hope that our business will flourish. For this reason I long for the sun to rise in the morning. I simply love the fact I remained hopeful, and it's for this reason today I enjoy the fruits of my affiliate business on the internet.

Passion For Achievement

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In ancient Greek, one of the most swift and deadly weapon that was used in performing major destruction was a catapult. This weapon was designed like a huge human hand big enough to hold a huge stone. It was pulled backward and let loose so that it jacks forward with a powerful throwing force, letting loose the huge stone which flew with high speed into the air towards the intended target. This weapon would damaged extensively huge walls, strongholds, stone houses etc.

Passion to accomplish something in life works exactly like this weapon. It catapults you towards your goal with force and precision. It is actually the only thing that will help you achieve anything

Everyone loves something; we are shaped and motivated by what we love. That reveals our passion. The starting point of all desires is passion. Feeble desires bring feeble results. Strong desires bring powerful results.

"You will be remembered in life only for your passionate accomplishments"-John Mason. Therefore start a business that you have a passion for, put your energy and effort in effective business management. Be enthusiastic about it. Follow it diligently. If it requires practice, put your time and resources into it, study, read books and research, make inquiries, and meditate on it, until you accomplish it. Top business people run their businesses diligently and passionately, always seeking for new business opportunities and ideas.

Being balanced is an excuse for being lukewarm, indifferent or neutral. These are the three traits attached to failure. Nothing is ever accomplished without passion. Passion is simply everything

Twitter As A Marketing Tool

Thursday, July 16, 2009 | comments

We keep tweeting because we are addicted to it. Usually it begins like an innocent habit but develops and soon it becomes a daily routine. Some will wonder, why waste valuable time tweeting? Of late twitter has been receiving thousands of sign ups and many remain logged in almost the whole day, making it the fastest growing social networking website. But before you start wondering why everybody is getting hooked on twitter, think of the immense benefit you can derive from this website.

Twitter has become one of the best marketing tools for online business and with the rapid growth of twitter; it has obviously become one of the most valuable tools of business promotion. Business people and organizations are currently taking advantage of these trends to market and advertise their products and services. Social networking websites like face book and twitter are increasingly becoming affordable ways of advertising, relaying instant information to customers and also acquiring new clients.

Barack Obama's presidential campaign was highly boosted by the use of these social networking websites. President Obama was able use these avenues as a campaign tool to reach millions of American people, launch his presidential campaign and pass his message across the globe. His campaign team took advantage of the huge number of youths who use twitter and face book to drive his policies hence giving Obama an obvious advantage over his opponents.

Want to reach thousands with your online business? Then you must take advantage of the influx of people addicted to twitter. You cannot afford to be left out of this resourceful marketing tool. It's until you begin promoting your online business program on twitter or face book that you will realize its capabilities and enjoy making money online.

Success And Achievement

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In the course of my business tour in Kenya, I met a fish farmer who has been extremely successful in this endeavor. He earns not less than a hundred thousand dollars annually from raring and distributing fish to five star hotels in and out of the country. When I asked him about his journey to this successful business, he surprised me by narrating that this business was one of his least attempts to survive, after he was rudely and abruptly retrenched from the company he was working with.

He was a foreman in a tea company, when one day, he was shocked to receive a letter of retrenchment. Suddenly he landed into a lot of problems. He had a loan to pay, children in school, he had just began constructing a house for his family and after two months of his joblessness, auctioneers were at his door thereby taking everything he owned.

With no money, he had to try and settle down in the village and begin doing the only thing left to do; Farming. Eventually he got an idea: to rare fish and there he was; now, a millionaire. The one thing the fisher man never did was give up. Despite his predicament he remained focused to achieve something in life. It would be sad if we never try and yet claim that life has nothing to offer.

Start by believing in yourself, accept, and appreciate who you are. I personally believe each one of us has the potential to succeed, with personal drive and passion we’ll definitely make it in whatever field we pursue. Aim for the sky as you remain optimistic and never give up. Seek always to spend time with people who appreciate, motivate and inspire you continually. Work hard and smart and for sure you’ll succeed.

Healthy Relationships

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Every couple needs to deliberately expose their real traits to one another as they spend time together. Issues like one’s personality and family back grounds need to be addressed, the high points and low points in one’s history are very crucial. Being open to each other is a sure way of avoiding confrontation once you are married. Take this time to build trust for each other by being faithful to one other and always speaking the truth at all time. Don’t hide your character to the other party, allow them to know who you really are early so that they may choose if they want to spend their lives with you or not. This will help strengthen your marriage for you’ll understand and know how to handle each other.



Sometimes it is the small issues that seem insignificant that cause break ups in relationships. So learn to share on every matter, let your partner know if you have any financial problems. If you have outstanding debts let your partner be aware of the situation, anyway it’s said two are better than one hence you can find a ways of solving such matters.

Also the scars and failures like former relationships and spiritual matters must be talked about during courtship. Failure to deliberate on these issues early can lead to misunderstanding in marriage. Let’s seek to discover and know each other at the courtship stage for this is one of the reasons that we see many failed marriages especially during the first five years. We can change this tide by seeking to perfect the art of courtship.

Marriage is a place of joy and comfort but what will determine the kind of marriage you’ll have is how you treat those initial days. You are the ones to establish if you’ll enjoy your marriage or not. Love in marriage does not just come about but the couple must work at it constantly from the word go and keep at it. So the next time you see a couple laughing along the street don’t think it just happened but a lot was been sacrificed.

CourtShip That Leads To Marriage

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The strength of any building is its foundation. In fact a foundation determines the strength, height and design of a building. The truth of the matter is that when we look at a building we rarely consider the foundation; we look at the design and are mesmerized. We look at the windows and glasses and are struck with awe. When we see the interiors we are captivate by its beauty. This is the layman’s point of view but the builder’s point of view is absolutely different.

Marriage is like a building and if you want to have a successful marriage you need to approach it like a building; and the first thing you will need to consider is what kind of foundation you what to lay for your marriage. The foundation of any marriage begins at courtship so when the couples intending to get married spend time together in getting to know each other. The success of any marriage therefore will largely depend on how well the couple will handle their courtship.

Let me show you some important things any couple needs to know in courtship. I know you have heard of the saying “ignorance is not bliss” that’s very true in marriage. On several occasions I have had married persons come to me saying something like, my husband is not the same man I got married to, he has changed a great deal. I have come to learn the reason is because most of the couples don’t open up to each other during courtship. So they begin marriage as total strangers to each other.

Moving On After A Break Up

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Breakups can be very emotionally draining experiences. Giving your heart to someone and having them break it can be sometime the most devastating thing that can ever happen to someone. Since it may be inevitable to have someone break up a relationship, then having a coping mechanism is not a bad idea.After a break up, the affected person should groom him/herself well to create a ‘feel good’ mood. Make your hair, treat yourself to a massage, dress well, watch a favorite movie and generally celebrate yourself to boost the way you feel.



You should also detach yourself from things that remind you of the just ended relationship such as gifts, photos and venues that you visited together. You could do this by returning the gifts or locking up all the memories in a big box if you are not ready to set them on fire.



Keep yourself busy. If you keep idle, the thought of the heart breaker will linger on your mind. For this reason, you should engage in a sport of your choice such as tennis, swimming or chess to keep yourself busy and entertained. After giving yourself a good break, purpose to meet new people. Not all relationships will lead to a break up. If one has not worked out, try another. I’m sure by now you will have learnt a few things from the old relationship that you can carry into the new one.

Just don’t let the breakup bring you down to a point where you are unable to continue with your life.

Making Friends

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Human beings are social people and this means that they will always make friends, keep the ones they socially connect with and lose touch with the ones they have not built closeness with.This is the reason why gatherings that offer social grounds such as discos, restaurants, churches, football pitches and even parties are very popular. It is also the same reason why social networking websites like face book and twitter have grown at a very high rate. Most people look forward to attending social functions and after the event, they reflect on how many friends they have made, who attended the function and whether they will meet again in another function.



For some people, making friends can be easy while for others it may be a challenge. Human beings get attracted to someone and wish to be their friend because of their talent, sense of humor, common interest or just simple need for a friend. Young people go out of their way to polish their looks, dress in a trendy way, practice a few jokes or rehearse the latest dance move before a party so that it can earn them new friends.

It would cause any person a lot of emotional stress if they attended a function where no one was interested in making friends with them. It is in this line that you find that people do not go to events where they do not know anybody unless they carry a friend along.



The next time you call someone your friend, think of the circumstances under which you met and what keeps you glued as friends. It would be interesting to keep this data.

Life Is about Choices

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Am sure each one of us desires to lead lives of our own making, where we don’t have to worry about paying bills or how to take care of our families. But in the current economical times it appears as though there are many issues to be handled and very limited time. So we end up living one day at a time and just hoping for the best.

Some five years ago I realized if I didn’t make tough and deliberate decisions my life would not be the way it is now. The choices I made then have greatly contributed to my current happiness. I got to a place in my life and resolved in my mind never to be in a dilemma. But rather tackle issues immediately they crop up. One major decision I made was quitting being in employment.



What I did was being honest with myself, I was not happy at my place of work and I wondered why I would not also employ others to work for me. The determination to gain leverage by using other people’s resources helped me come to such a decision, though the consequences would maybe affect my financial status I choose to think positively.



You are the one who determines the life you want to live therefore the initial steps you take will count a lot for your future. Avoid listening to voices that pull you back but instead seek for friends that encourage and give you hope. Team up with individuals who are optimistic and focused. Finally, never ever give up whatever the circumstance.

Communication In Marriage

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People are different and in a marriage, two people of different up-bringing, goals, thoughts, feelings and sometimes cultures have to live together and complement each other. The only way they can achieve a level of oneness is by listening to each other, talking out their views and reaching an understanding that would make both parties either satisfied or close to being satisfied.



Communication is not only verbal. Non-verbal means of communication such as body language also counts. A partner may not say much but buy a birthday gift which reflects and at the same time communicates love. In many cases though, discussing is the best means of communicating in a marriage as it leaves no room for misunderstanding.



As people live together they get to learn their partners and discover the best time to discuss issues, the right tone to use while solving problems as well as the words that work magic in conflict resolution or persuasion of one’s partner.It is advisable that each couple agrees on a time that is set apart just to talk about anything in their relationship. This could be daily or even weekly depending on the couple’s schedule. But this agreement doesn’t mean that one has to wait until the set time to relay any concerns to their partner. As the couple continues to enhance their communication, their bond also continues to grow much stronger.

Office Affairs

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One of the reasons why affairs build in the office is because people with common skills and interests work together in departments and as they share their ideas in projects and assignments, they find themselves attracted to each other.



If one gets into an office relationship then a number of things ought to be dealt with. For example, if the relationship goes sour, how do you relate to each other? If the break up is very bad then maybe one of the parties can resign or request for a transfer to a different section of the company.



Another thing to consider is the ranks of the people involved in the affair. If a manager is involved with a junior staff then he/she should appoint others when it comes to appraising the staff to avoid being biased. It would also help to agree on the times when the colleagues having an affair get to meet on a social platform and when to focus on work otherwise it is very easy to nurture the relationship at the cost of the company.

If well managed, affairs at the office can flourish into happy marriages.

First Impressions Matter

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A friend of mine narrated to me how he was one time treated by a man he met in a bus. He was coming from Mombasa to Nairobi and since it is a long ride, he started a conversation with a very smartly dressed young man. My friend had gone to Mombasa for a brief business trip and was now coming back in a relaxed mode; he was wearing simple T-shirt and a pair of Khaki short pants.



After some hours, he was hungry and hence asked his newly found friend who of course looked very wealthy, “I am not so conversant with the city of Nairobi, when we alight, will you please take me to one of the hotels for a meal?” His smartly dressed friend was delighted to do exactly that. When they alighted in town, his friend confidently led him to a hotel, but after a few minutes he was shocked to find out that the hotel he was being taken was in the middle of the toy market, a slum in the outskirt’s of Nairobi. It is an extremely filthy environment and very unhygienic.



His friend sits down on the dark oily wooden benches inside the dusty, unclean hotel and comfortably orders for a burger and a mug of tea. He calmly asked his friend, “Ah…my friend, is…is this the best hotel in Nairobi?” His friend answers confidently, “Well it is definitely the cheapest in town.”

He then took his smartly dressed friend to Hilton Hotel and said, “I meant apart from Hilton Hotel which is the other better place.” And his friend really apologized. Anyway, he took good care of his friend and from this event, he learnt a hard lesson. People tend to treat you the way you look.

Lessons of Life

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I belong to the school of thought that believes, there are no mistakes in life, only lessons which will allow you to grow and advance higher on the path of self mastery and self discipline.This is not to say that we become oblivious and reckless in our living and put to death the conscious voice of rightful living. Simply put, it is to stop being captives to our past mistakes and become the architects of our future.



Hanging on to our past and notably to the mistakes we have made is paramount to clinging to an outmoded view of reality. Constant viewing of our past mistakes as spasms of foolishness rather than lessons to learn from, often presents itself as a deadly poison that paralyzes our ability to progress and sends us to a sense of resignation to inadequacy and self pity.



We need a paradigm shift and an awakening of the conscious to view mistakes for what they are and not allow ourselves to be shaped and defined by them. In retrospect, I believe this can only be realized when we truly begin to ask ourselves the hard questions like how did we make these mistakes? Why do we make the same mistakes over and over again? Could they be avoided? How can we overcome the pain that comes with making mistakes? And most importantly, how can I begin to view my mistakes as life lessons, put them behind me and move on?

The Key to Success is in Having Goals

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Very important to note is that we should not allow our past to affect our future. Goals are in no way connected to our past but related to our destiny. Goals are what we want to achieve in life rather than what we think we can get out of life. Our goals should be "SMART" meaning specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bond. Hold yourself accountable to someone like your spouse, colleague or mentor. This will go a long way to help you not divert from achieving your set goals in life.

Finally fill your mind with positive thoughts; if you think you can succeed, you are right. If you think you cannot, you are also right, it lies in the mind. Hold yourself accountable not forgetting to be responsible in all you set to do. Avoid at all cost to create excuses for not succeeding by maybe blaming your background, circumstances or financial status. For one thing is for sure God has gifted each one of us with talents and abilities to archive our purpose in life. Take advantage with where God has positioned you and affect the world around you positively. Identify what you want in life then lay out an action plan to get there and influence peoples' lives. I believe without doubt it's entirely upon us to utilize what God has granted to us freely. I thank God I attended that presentation to share with you these ideas.

Mothers' Unconditional Love

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From when a mother knows she is expecting a baby, the maternal instinct right away triggers a protective instinct that tries to ensure no harm befalls the baby. Even that weird occurrence, which sometimes is an overwhelming craving for certain foods or non-foods while pregnant, is the body's' way of saying that certain minerals are missing from the system and you need them to ensure the baby gets optimum growth in the womb. My wife and I being first time mother and father are leaving nothing to chance to ensure the best for the unborn baby. My wife will always flinch whenever anyone or thing move very close to her. She is not alone many mother invest a lot to their unborn babies, a true testimony of a mothers' love to her child that is independent to the child's physical appearance. As much as some parents lock up their children because of physical deformities and the stigma societies attach to these abnormalities. But most mothers love their babies unconditionally. This ensures the survival of infants to adulthood, thanks to God for these instincts. Just like the American poet (James Agee) puts it "A mother never realizes that her children are no longer children". Even when they are grown old she believes that they remain her little children.

Listen to this Irish saying "A man loves his sweetheart the most; his wife the best, but his mother the longest"

My friend told me five years ago it's his mothers' instincts that saved him from certain death when he got a bout of pneumonia. He had a piercing pain in his chest, which he would stoically endure even as it looked very serious. One reason he resisting going to hospital was he had emptied his pocket at the beginning of the school term. And he thought the pain would eventually go away. But his mother who is also a grand mother had not retired from parenting arena. She said this was not a laughing matter and that she was not going to the village until my friend saw a doctor. And with that she fished from her large purse Ksh 3,000. To my friends surprise the doctor told him he had pneumonia. Every mother has a sixth sense that's impossible to argue with.

A priest tickled his congregation when he talked of this mothers' unconditional love. He spoke of the obligation to congratulate the new mother, there is really no comeliness in the infant to talk about when she cannot honestly exclaim "What a beautiful boy" then simply says "What a baby."

Let me conclude with this gem "Child bearing myth number 1: Labor ends when the baby is born."

Change Your Mindset and Become a Team Player

Monday, July 13, 2009 | comments

In many instances individuals with great personal drive, find ways of getting recognition and opportunity to show their worth. But once spotted they are considered as a threat and attract skeptics especially from the people they work with. People like these need to find ways to implement their ideas and aspirations tactfully, baring in mind other people's convictions as they introduce their thoughts and ideas.

It's important to involve others in your implementation plans from the word go, rather than playing it alone. Appearing to be a hero makes others feel left out, instead keep others in the picture all the way to win the confidence and support of those you are working with. We all need others to make it life, so involve the people you are working with.

When undertaking any project trust others with responsibilities to ensure you deliver positive results. There is no way you can be gifted or talented in all areas. You can be an excellent small business entrepreneur but lack skills in marketing your ideas hence the need to call on the services of people gifted in that particular field.

By involving others you will ensure success is achieved and gradually gain trust from those you are working with. Once you get their audience, establish your values while avoiding disrupting the laid down schedules. Tactful facilitation will improve your chances of positively impacting others. Above all develop patience and tact for you may not achieve your desired goals as soon as expected. Prove your skills in order to influence and win the support of your business partners and colleagues.

Work Smart, Rule To Personal Development

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In Africa, there is a story about a race between a tortoise and a hare in which the tortoise won the price, not because of speed, but because it took advantage of the hare’s overconfidence and mediocrity, and slowly but surely strategized for the win.

On the day that the competition was announced, the hare and the tortoise met for a press conference and just like a heavy weight champion, the hare used boastful words to praise himself and of course throwing in some scathing, and provocative words against his opponent, who as usual kept his peace. The tortoise being a phlegmatic character, who speaks less, didn’t answer a word.

Days before the event as the hare was exercising, the tortoise was organizing a big gang of tortoises. On the material day, he simply placed them along the route early in the morning, each one a distance from the other. Right from the word ‘GO’, guess who was leading. The hare led very well such that at some point he stopped to chew some carrot. Surprisingly when he looked in front, he saw a tortoise. He rose up, ran quickly, overtook the opponent, and then rested smiling to him. Suddenly, he notices Mr. Tortoise again in front of him about one kilometer. He scratches his head wondering how come he was overtaken twice by such a slow opponent. Anyway, he rose and ran fast, overtaking the opponent with wind gusting sweep. Again and again this process was repeated until finally, he was shocked to see the tortoise cross the finish line before him. Hence, Mr. Tortoise took the day.

Mr. Tortoise didn’t work hard, but he worked smart! This is the secret of entrepreneurship. In a world where business competition is fierce, success in not really dependant on how hard you work (even though diligence is important) but how smart you work.

“Little drops of water, little grains of sand, make a mighty ocean and the pleasant land.” – Julia Carney. Most people get stranded in one place for years trying to figure out how to ‘begin big’. They are preoccupied with big plans that never take off. They are waiting for enough financial boosts, enough man power, enough experience, and enough time, which in essence never really comes. Surprisingly, those you overlooked and aimed at challenging with your big plans overtake you and you wonder, “Where did I go wrong?” Well, guess what, they overtook you while you were standing, waiting for conditions to improve.

In the process of growth of your company/business, take small steps, one at a time, consistently. After being faithful in small steps, you’ll look back and be able to say. “I am still not where I want to be, but I am not where I was before.” Do not wait for enough resources before you take a step, use what you have no matter how small, just work with it smartly.

“Victory is won not in miles, but in inches. Win a little now, hold the ground and later win a lot more.” – Luis L’Mour
Never ever be discouraged when you make small progress. Only be weary of standing still. Successful people are those who do what they can with what they have at hand where they are. Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too! Keep on, slow but sure!

Marketing

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One effective tip of marketing yourself or your product is appreciation. A simple thank you does the magic. However, successful businessmen will tell you, they have many, many more way of expressing or saying thank you, even though it sounds simple. Every human being no matter where they come from, are born with the desire to be recognized, to be honored, and to be appreciated. Whenever you are appreciated, tendency is always that you will go back to the same place, or the same person that appreciated you. Gratitude creates desire in others to give

Affiliate Marketing

Monday, July 6, 2009 | comments

There are many advantages to affiliate marketing as compared with other online opportunities but these are the top five ones that make a huge difference.
2) No Need to Have A Catalogue - In affiliate marketing, the actual selling and delivering process is the task of the affiliate manager. As a marketer, all you are required to do is direct customers to another website through your affiliate link.

3) No Need To have Staff – Tasks in affiliate marketing are easy to perform, all that counts is having a little internet marketing knowledge. But in case there tasks you cannot handle, you can outsource from other online service providers therefore avoiding the costs of paying salaries.
4) No Need To Stock Your Own Products – Rather than getting a premises or website and stocking it with products, affiliate marketing programs provide you with products to stock on your shop or online business. You therefore will have tons to offer to your target market by simply joining affiliate marketing programs.

5) Element of Offering Customer Service Eliminated – Once a sale has been made it is the duty of the affiliate manager to provide Customer service. No need of after-sales services and in case of customer complains, you refer your clients to your affiliate manager.

Challenges Are meant to Build Us.

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While you are still on the face of this earth be sure to encounter different challenges now and then. From the moment we wake up to the time we lay down to sleep we are faced with myriad of issues. Anything that seem to be beyond human ability to handle I call it a challenge. There are many of these issues which you will always encounter in our day to day life. These are the things that propel self improvement.

No business records instant profits; behind every successful internet business story are handles and obstacles it has overcome to get where it is currently. There is nothing like instant success but only working hard and smart produces winners. When I came up with my website it took me sometime before I discovered how to generate traffic. What if I gave up along the way? I wouldn’t be where I am today. Some of us tend to divert and take a different route simply because things are not working.

If your online business seems to be stagnant, rest if you must but don’t give up. Maybe it’s from the next punch that you’ll make your big break. Seek advice, read widely and remain focused soon enough you’ll realize your goal. Giving up should never be an option.

Many fail in online business because of giving up and maybe their break was just around the corner. Everything comes with a challenge and so does internet business. The first year mostly is time to learn and gain experience. Therefore brave the challenges you are encountering now, remains steadfast and determined and with time you’ll start making money online.



Work Smart, Rule To Personal Development:


In Africa, there is a story about a race between a tortoise and a hare in which the tortoise won the price, not because of speed, but because it took advantage of the hare’s overconfidence and mediocrity, and slowly but surely strategized for the win.

On the day that the competition was announced, the hare and the tortoise met for a press conference and just like a heavy weight champion, the hare used boastful words to praise himself and of course throwing in some scathing, and provocative words against his opponent, who as usual kept his peace. The tortoise being a phlegmatic character, who speaks less, didn’t answer a word.

Days before the event as the hare was exercising, the tortoise was organizing a big gang of tortoises. On the material day, he simply placed them along the route early in the morning, each one a distance from the other. Right from the word ‘GO’, guess who was leading. The hare led very well such that at some point he stopped to chew some carrot. Surprisingly when he looked in front, he saw a tortoise. He rose up, ran quickly, overtook the opponent, and then rested smiling to him. Suddenly, he notices Mr. Tortoise again in front of him about one kilometer. He scratches his head wondering how come he was overtaken twice by such a slow opponent. Anyway, he rose and ran fast, overtaking the opponent with wind gusting sweep. Again and again this process was repeated until finally, he was shocked to see the tortoise cross the finish line before him. Hence, Mr. Tortoise took the day.

Mr. Tortoise didn’t work hard, but he worked smart! This is the secret of entrepreneurship. In a world where business competition is fierce, success in not really dependant on how hard you work (even though diligence is important) but how smart you work.

“Little drops of water, little grains of sand, make a mighty ocean and the pleasant land.” – Julia Carney. Most people get stranded in one place for years trying to figure out how to ‘begin big’. They are preoccupied with big plans that never take off. They are waiting for enough financial boosts, enough man power, enough experience, and enough time, which in essence never really comes. Surprisingly, those you overlooked and aimed at challenging with your big plans overtake you and you wonder, “Where did I go wrong?” Well, guess what, they overtook you while you were standing, waiting for conditions to improve.

In the process of growth of your company/business, take small steps, one at a time, consistently. After being faithful in small steps, you’ll look back and be able to say. “I am still not where I want to be, but I am not where I was before.” Do not wait for enough resources before you take a step, use what you have no matter how small, just work with it smartly.

“Victory is won not in miles, but in inches. Win a little now, hold the ground and later win a lot more.” – Luis L’Mour
Never ever be discouraged when you make small progress. Only be weary of standing still. Successful people are those who do what they can with what they have at hand where they are. Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too! Keep on, slow but sure!
 
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